This one’s a toughy… Some people will say “yeah, that’s a great idea, thank you” others will be incensed by the idea of giving their kids money. Yup. It’s the allowance talk.
We keep it pretty simple around Chez Fresh Hell. If one of the kids does a job on the big board to their ability without being asked, they get a ticket. At the end of the week, they give me the tickets and get a quarter for each ticket.
All three of the kids can read. All of them have some pretty set wants. But I’m not a mom that just buys them stuff because. That would be stupid, and I LIKE to think that I’m not a stupid mom. The jury’s still out on that one, but there ya go.
For many years that Geek and I tried the “half the kid’s age” formula for allowance. It ate us alive. Especially since no one wanted to do anything and get allowance. So now, if a kid’s got a goal, I remind them of the things they could be doing to EARN that item. Now, granted, Mouse is nearly 16 and her wants – year books, class rings, prom dresses – are getting expensive. But she’s super realistic about money and her wants.
Boychik doesn’t care, as long as he gets his markers every month. The deal is he gets a 10 pack of markers if and only if he lets me cut or file his toenails. Yup. Said it. I don’t care that it’s bribery. All I know is that the last time I tried to do anything with his feet without a reward, he reacted so badly I thought my neighbors were going to call the police.
Ms. Scarlett is starting to understand money. She’s not completely sure on what’s what yet. Everything except a penny is “a Quar-ture, Mom.” Sure, super cute when she’s missing teeth, not so much when it’s time to help her with her homework.
As always, pick a method and stick with it. Kids DO NOT like change. Do not cave, do not bargain. When my guys get the wants and the gimmees, I ask “do you have money?” and many times that will stop them in their tracks. Even if they say yes. Ms Scarlett tried it over a doll when she had maybe 3 bucks. In her piggy bank. AT HOME.
When I asked the question, she said “yets, in my bank.”
“Mmmm Hmmmm, and is your bank here?”
“No Mommy.”
“how much is in your bank?”
“Lots and lots!”
“Well, this doll is $9. We can count your lots and lots of money, and the next time we go out, you’ll need to remember your money.”
This kinda nipped the whole “I want it want it want it” in the bud with her.
Boychik is, as usual, a different story. We’ll be out and if there’s a toy section, he’ll try to take control.
“C’mon Mom, wets go dis way.”
“Annnnnd where are we going?”
“To look at da toys?”
“Yeah, no. I don’t buy toys when you and I go out. If you want toys, you need to save for them.”
Big body deep sigh “Yeah, okay Mom.”
Funny thing is, that’s his routine EVERY. FREAKING. TIME. But it’s okay. The kender-beasties will learn about money.